Did Mother Hen Die While Hugging Her Baby?

I don't know... but every time I eat a meal with both chicken and egg in it, I can't stop thinking whether they died together.  I kept on imagining the mother hen in the coop and hugging her baby eggs with that scared look in her eyes trying to keep safe the eggs from the human who will harvest the eggs for breakfast.  And the mother hen is begging "No! Please don't take my babies!"  But then the human will get both the mother and the baby, kill them and sell them.

I know it's weird.  And if I had a choice, I wouldn't eat another meal like that because every time I chew, I also like to puke and cry.

Getting Out of the Crossroad

There comes a time in our life when we are faced with so many choices but the most attractive one is to give up.  It's not always cowardice.  You can call it human weakness.  A lack of faith even.  You can blame it on your genes or on your underdeveloped brain.  Who knows right?  No it's not always cowardice.  Sometimes it can be self-preservation.  Whatever your choice is, whether to go on or give up, the only question is, can you live with the consequence?

Gotye's Somebody That I Used To Know

I was browsing thru Youtube one night and I encountered "Somebody that I used to know" by Gotye.  Turns out it's a hit and it has maaaaany versions, both serious and funny.  I like the music more than the lyrics (but I like the lyrics although I can't relate) and the dynamics of how it is sung (i don't know the music term for it).  I would just like to share a few versions that caught my attention.

This is by Walk off the Earth and it is awesome. Not only do they sound great, they're also all playing using just 1 guitar! Thanks to mebossyounothing for the video post.

[Walk off the Earth] Somebody That I Used To Know Cover

This next version is a parody of the one by Walk off the Earth.

Mighty Bond*

I had a dream about a friend.  We were talking one minute and the next I learned she was dead.  When I woke up, I sent her a text message which is a smiley face.  She replied asking me to give her a hug because she is very stressed out.  And if I can go meet her.  So I changed my plans for the day to see her.  It was a 1 1/2 hour ride to and 2 1/2 hour back.  But it was worth it.

I admit I'm the kind of person who likes to stick to schedule.  I can get quite rattled, not to mention grumpy, when my schedule suddenly changes.  But at that moment, I felt it was sign.  I just had to do it.  The dream made me think about how easy it is for something to slip away and you cannot do something about it.  Even if you "cry a river", you cannot bring something back.

I never told her about it and probably never will.  But it will be a story I tell others in the hope that I can cause a ripple of change before things are too late for those who are like me.



*not the sticky substance

The Basic Instinct

I looked at my niece this morning & remembered how she would let her grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, & yaya carry her or feed her but not other members of the family who she rarely sees.  There must be something that makes a baby discern when to calm down or when to cry when carried by someone.  I think this is Trust.  And because it is something akin to a basic instinct pre-loaded in us from the minute we are born, it is something that once broken is very hard to get back.

So maybe that is why for any relationship to work, trust should be present.  Trust makes kisses sweet.  And it's trust that makes your niece cling hard to you when she's hurt, scared, or just sleepy.

Psych 209

So ok. It's been 5 years since i studied anything psychology-related but every once in a while i come across psych words that excite me. One of my favorite concepts is "cognitive dissonance". It's a fancy term for something really simple and what many of us do in our lifetime. Simply put, it is when what you do is different from what you are thinking (or something like that). Well yesterday, I learned another concept which is "reversal of self-denial". I'm not sure if there really is a study about it but according to my source, it can be explained this way: "Self-denial is not doing something that you really want to. Reversal of self-denial occurs when a very strong force pushes you to do that thing which you have been denying yourself and you end up doing it." Whether the concept has or has no research to back it up, I think it happens to a lot of us. Some may call it weakness, lack of self-control, or whatever term there is to describe it but it happens even to the best of us...fortunately or unfortunately. I can attest to that and Iam sure you can too. Sometimes, it feels like you've been keeping your emotions in-check to make others happy but when you reach the boiling point, you can't help but let it all out. And sometimes you just want to be happy and to heck with the consequences. Good for you if you don't end up regretting what you did because it marked the start of your happiness. Unfortunately, not all of us has that privilege. And so we live with self-denial and keep hoping that maybe someday we can finally do the reverse.

Come & Go. Or Stay.

People come and go. But sometimes, being left behind hurts. Especially when the person who left you is someone you love. When the person leaves you without even saying goodbye, you feel that you don't matter to the person at all. And this is not only true to romantic relationships. So when you get hurt, you won't tell the person who is leaving. You will pretend that nothing is wrong. What is ironic is that the person who is leaving just doesn't know how to say goodbye. It might also be painful for that person. So it is a cycle. One that can be vicious at times. So i say, when you meet someone and the person becomes important to you, don't do anything stupid to ruin your relationship. Great friendship is hard to come by and not many can experience this in their lifetime. Don't take your friends for granted especially those you feel loves you. You don't need to love them in the same way. Just show them that you care. Because there might come a time that you keep on running after someone who doesn't love you at all that you neglect those who do love you. And you eventually lose them too.

So live. And love.